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Aug 012017

Sex is amazing.  Delicious, sensual, beautiful, fun.  It’s one of the most beautiful forms of connection we can share.  But more than that, our sexuality is connected to the deepest dynamic of our personality, or core sense of self.  All too often, society imprints in us patterns of fear, shame, and guilt around our sexuality.  We pick up taboos, judgments, and so many other things, complicating our relationships with our bodies, with intimacy, and with one another.  We learn to close off, physically, emotionally, and energetically.

It is because of this that our sexuality has such potential to offer healing.  When approached with consciousness, sexual energy is opening and expansive.  It can unlock the body and the heart, bringing life back into spaces that we have closed off and shut down.  And since our sexual nature is so deeply connected to our core, this healing extends into the foundation of our connection with self and with one another, having the potential to completely transform every aspect of our experience.

Tantra and bodywork are beautiful practices to help us access this healing potential.  Tantra is itself a practice of spiritual elevation through our sensual nature.  Through sex and through the pure physical opening that can come from sharing without judgment and without thoughts of performance, from a place of full presence.  It helps us to move past ideas of what sex should look like, past roles and stories.

The beautiful thing about the tantric practice is that it extends so far past the realm of sexuality, into a place where our intimacy can deepen.  It helps us to become more comfortable opening up and being seen, to have more space to see and accept the others that we connect with, exactly as they are.  This more conscious approach to sexuality becomes a model that helps to deepen our approach to life on every level.  Tantra and the healing that it offers revitalises our connection with the moment of experience, inviting authenticity, a stronger sense of self-esteem, and a more empowered relationship with ourselves and the world.

When we come from a place of wholeness, the masks drop away.  We become more free to let go of things that we do to maintain control, to project an image, to purchase acceptance from others.  We learn to express ourselves with authenticity and honesty, communicating our emotions from a real, raw space, and learning accountability for those feelings at the same time.  We heal and release the judgments we have around ourselves and our body, letting go of those aspects of guilt and shame that cause us to push intimacy away and hide from the world.  In short, we open to exactly the kind of relationship with ourselves and others that we have wanted all along.

One of the most amazing aspects of this transformation is that it extends the same healing potential into every connection we have.  Our own healing journey is offered, through our words, through our presence, through the examples we offer and the space we hold in our relating, to everyone we interact with.  The healing radiates out through the entire sphere of our experience.  Not just with those that we connect with on an intimate or sexual level, but with everyone we encounter.

This is the true power of sexuality, of tantra, of connecting with our bodies from a space of sensuality and deep acceptance.  Healing, creativity, vitality, clarity, a deeper capacity for love and a more authentic expression of our own beings.  The capacity to surrender our illusions of control to step into a truly human space of experiencing and relating.  And as this movement to wholeness happens within, it becomes reflected in the mirror of our outer world, manifesting as a life more filled with joy, freedom, meaningful connection, and abundance than we could have imagined possible.

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Jul 012017

One of the most beautiful things that the practice of tantra has brought into my life is a sense of deep acceptance.  For who I am, for how I am.  For all the little perfect imperfections of my being.  It’s a growing process, one that’s never completed, always alive and growing.  And this is part of the beauty of it.

The key, for me, revolves around acceptance and judgment.  Judgment, in these terms, means accepting certain things and rejecting others.  About ourselves, about others, about the world, about how life is.  In essence: making something wrong.  It can be pretty easy to slip into this.  We all have things about ourselves that we would like to change, that we may not want to see, things we reject or try to fight against.  And we tend to see those same things in others that we interact with and in the world at large, judging outwardly just as we judge inwardly.

One challenge that this brings is the tendency to move into conflict with ourselves.  We may deny those things we don’t accept, or strive to change them. We might be angry or shameful: about our desires, our feelings, our habits, attitudes or emotions.  But when we shun them, they only become stronger.  We may push them down into the subconscious, but they just leak out around the edges of the masks that we wear, or explode outward and cause problems.  We may get the feeling that no matter how hard we try to change, these qualities keep popping up, sometimes stronger than before.

Tantra is a practice of deep acceptance.  Of knowing that there is no right or wrong.  Everything we are, is essential to our beings, a beautiful part of our sacred journey.  Tantra is about being present in the moment: feeling our feelings and simply allowing them to be.

Something amazing happens when we stop fighting and start accepting.  Imagine for a moment a pain or anger you’ve been trying so hard to ignore.  Imagine just stopping and allowing yourself to feel it, to be with it.  At first, it can be overwhelming.  It hurts, or it’s so strong that we could easily get carried away by it.  That’s why we’ve run, or hidden, or lashed out, or made a story about it, or gone into the blame game.  But we sit with it, breathing, allowing it to be.

This is just the beginning of acceptance, and yet if we are able to truly do this, to really love the parts of ourselves that are coming up to be heard, the charge starts to ease.  We start to feel more space around the feeling.  We might take it further and open up.  Share what’s coming up with a trusted friend or loved one, move into a place of vulnerability.  Suddenly, the thing that we’ve been fighting all this time begins to fade.  We’ve stopped fighting it, stopped running or hiding from it.  Stopped feeding the fire.  We’re actually feeling it, and this brings a deep sense of peace and release.

This makes space inside of us.  Space to allow life in, to feel, to see what’s around us in the moment, and to experience how beautiful, how joyful, rich, and alive the moment really is.  This is the core of tantra.  It’s something that we can explore in sexuality and sensuality, connecting to the body and the deepest creative force in existence.  But it doesn’t stop there.  This sense of acceptance, this peace with ourselves and with our moment, extends into everything we experience.  Into every relationship, regardless of what the relating looks like on the surface.  Into our approach to life at the deepest level and in every way.

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Jun 012017

Looking for a new Hens Party idea to make the night special?  Something different and exciting, and something that will offer the new bride and her BFFs excitement that night and for the years to come?

I am excited to offer something truly unique – a Tantra Hens Night.  I create an environment of delicious succulence, pampering the bride to be and her companions and offering a live, hands-on demonstration of lingam massage.  With a live model on-hand, I demonstrate the art of tantric lingam massage, giving the lucky ladies skills to bring your man to ecstasy, keeping him hooked for all the years to come.  In one night, you can learn skills that inspire passion and devotion in your lover, exploring the ancient art of tantra and how to use it to bring the excitement in your relationship to the next level.

This isn’t an ordinary, run of the mill Hens Party.  It’s a conscious sensual experience, exciting and educational, a special opportunity to have a night you’ll never forget and to learn an art that will light the fires in the bedroom for the rest of your life.  Not only will I show you how it works, using a live model and offering the techniques I’ve honed in years of professional experience, after the demonstration the bride to be and her besties will have the chance to try it out themselves.  Get into the action and see the power of tantra for yourself.

We all want excitement in our love life, and all too often the fires cool.  We aren’t taught true sex education, the way to tap into sensuality and take pleasure and connection to the highest levels.  That’s why I’ve decided to offer these workshops.  Lingam massage is one of the hidden arts of the feminine, a tantric technique that has been used and refined for millennia to bring your lover to the peak of excitement and have them begging for more.  After learning this, you’ll have any man in the palm of your hands and aching for you.

Why have an ordinary Hens Party with all the fun and delicious excitement gone once the night has ended?  With a Tantra Hens Party, the end of the night is the beginning of the fun.  You’ll come away wanting to try out your new skills on your lovers, watching as they experience the most amazing sensual play they have ever had.  After a night like this, your love life will never be the same.  For the bride, it’s a guarantee of excitement in the marriage for all the years to come.  And for the lucky lady’s companions, it’s a gift that can be brought into any relationship, something that will stoke the fires with any lover, any time.

I work in the Sydney area and offer Tantric Hens Parties and other tantric services for any who would like to explore the ancient art of tantric sexuality, bringing the wisdom and pleasure of true connection into your lives now and for years to come.

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May 012017

I love offering workshops around sexuality.  It’s deeply fulfilling to share about how to create passionate, powerful sexual experiences, and I really enjoy getting up in front of a group to teach about all aspects of sexuality and sensual connection.  Being a sex educator, I’m always expanding my repertoire, exploring new ways to reach my audience and offer them new ways to learn about pleasure.  One beautiful way that I do this is by demonstration with a live male model. I offer Hens Parties in Sydney during which I showcase a lingam massage live and in person. There’s something about working in person and live for all to see that you simply can’t match any other way.

When I’m working with a live model, I’m able to show specific techniques, subtleties and refinements.  Plenty can be passed across with words, but when you see the technique in action, it opens up a whole new layer of understanding.  Instead of simply following a description, the audience has seen the process, been a part of it.  They gain a greater understanding and retain more of what’s been passed along in the workshop.  It’s just like any class in that respect, whether we’re discussing tantra or sewing; a skilled teacher can help students to learn a subject through lectures alone, but if they can actually see what you mean, they will learn a lot more.

One of the most rewarding things about working with a live model is that I am able to show how to touch consciously, with care, sensitivity, and intention.  A touch is worth a thousand words.  I can write or talk about going slowly with a lingam massage, or using light pressure in certain touches, certain parts of the process, but through demonstration, the audience gets a sense of what that actually means.  How to tune in with the receiver, the power of subtle touches.

I also show how to maintain constant contact with the model, not only through touch but through voice as well.  I check in with them regularly throughout the workshop, tuning in and receiving feedback.  Not only does this give the participants an opportunity to ask questions and receive feedback from the model while in the state, it also shows how they can bring this same kind of openness, communication, and conscious connection into the bedroom.  Time and time again I’ve had my audiences share that, in observing me, how I work with the model, they have picked up new ways of connecting with their lover, holding the space, and sharing sensuality. I love offering these tantra hens parties because I can pass along skills and knowledge that transform the womens love lives from then on.

People learn in different ways.  Some are more auditory and learn well simply by hearing me discuss the process, while others learn better when reading about the technique.  Some absorb the information well just by watching, and others need to engage in the process, taking notes or actually trying it out themselves.  Knowing this, I offer handouts with a written description and pens to take notes.  When working with a live model, you can see what is happening when he is touched in certain ways.  It takes the workshop out of the realm of theory and brings it home for the participants.

One of the things that I’ve heard from the participants many times after the workshops is that seeing how I work has given them permission to be less goal-oriented in their own sexual adventures.  I love this, because it’s really the whole point of tantra.  It helps us to move past the tendency to go through the motions and opens up a new level of sensual connection, really feeling and being present to the sensations.  And once again, though I can explain the importance of this to the audience, once they see it, it becomes more clear. These workshops are a great idea for a truly unique Hens Night, a chance to prepare the lucky lady for passionate and sensual years ahead.

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Apr 012017

A Hens Night is a special celebration, a time to show the bride to be how much you care, to give her and her closest friends the time of her life and share some exciting, perhaps even “naughty” moments before she ties the knot.  Why not make it thrilling and unique, a night that won’t be forgotten?

For the bride to be and her best friends in Sydney, I have something really exciting and special to offer:  A Tantra Hens Party.

Most Hens Nights include champagne, laughter, music, and excitement, perhaps some delicious masculine attention, and a memory that the bride to be can treasure for years to come.  In my Tantra Hens Parties, I offer all this and more.  The lucky lady and her closest friends will have the chance to witness lingam massage performed on a live male model.  It’s an opportunity to explore tantra, the ancient science of sexuality, to learn the art of pleasure and deepen desire and connection in your relationship.

Lingam massage is an art honed by millennia of tantric sensual exploration.  In your Tantra Hens Party, I demonstrate all the tips and techniques of lingam massage, showing you live and in person exactly how to touch a man and bring him to the highest levels of arousal.  You’ll learn how to slow things down, build pleasure to unbelievable heights, and keep your lover in a space of delicious ecstasy.  And, even better, the bride to be and her closest companions will have the chance to try it out for themselves, putting the technique into practice.  This is an opportunity to learn a sensual art that will revolutionise your love life and keep things excited for all the years to come.

This is a chance to give the bride to be a night that will strengthen her marriage, stoke the fire in the bedroom, and have her man in the palm of her hand from that night forward.  And her friends are just as lucky, as everyone at the Tantra Hens Party will bring these skills home with them.  It’s a conscious sensual experience, and a special opportunity to have a night you’ll never forget.  In one night, the bride to be and all her friends can learn a tantric art that will make their love lives better than ever.

Laughter and fun, music and champagne, a touch of real sex education, the kind that makes those sexy moments better each time.  An occasion to share and remember for the rest of your lives.  A time to be free and naughty and wild, to savour the moment and bring your intimacy to the next level.  There’s no better gift for the woman entering the adventure of married life.

So, would you like to make your next Hens Night something exciting, and unforgettable?  A Tantra Hens Party is just the thing – sensual, educational, and deliciously naughty, offering the bride to be and her BFFs the skills that will take their relationships to new levels of pleasure and connection. 

Come ready for fun.

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Mar 032017

It’s beautiful to be connected.  To have honest, real human contact, to appreciate the joys of life.  And these days, it’s easier to be connected than ever, with social media and email accessible right from our phones.  We can be reached anytime, anywhere.  But how connected are we, really?

These days, one of the biggest issues we face is work-life balance.  It’s become the norm to answer work emails, take care of invoices, and communicate with employers or clients during our personal time.  And it’s all too easy to feel pressured to do this, to feel that we won’t keep our jobs unless we “live” them.  How much room is there for the “life” part of the equation?

Once upon a time, there was a clearer delineation between work and life.  We went to work and made money so that we could go home and live.  So that we could enjoy life, interact with family and friends, experience things and cultivate rich and meaningful connections.  In order to do that, we have to disconnect from work when the work day is over.  Put the email on hold, maybe even hide the phone altogether.  Set aside a time to be human and take pleasure in our lives.

Take some time to consider it.  Are you working to live or living to work? It’s an important question.  Are you enjoying this precious gift of life, or just waiting for retirement?  The choice is always ours.  We can give ourselves permission to put the job down and enjoy the time we have.

Our world is framed by narrative, by stories that we have absorbed along the way, often without ever realising it.  One of these narratives is security.  It’s that feeling that we have to push, struggle, exhaust ourselves, and do things that we don’t really want to do.  Just so that we have enough money to pay the bills and come back for the next week of struggle.  The funny thing is that security is an illusion; a carrot on a stick if you will, that can keep us running for decades, if we don’t stop to consider the alternatives.  And it’s a bottomless pit, a need that can’t be filled by any amount of money, power, or possessions.

All that we have, when it comes right down to it, is our experience.  Our present moment.  But we can’t enjoy the present moment if we’re living with an “until then” mindset.  I’ll be happy when I get that next promotion.  When I can finally take that vacation.  When I pay off the mortgage.  When the kids grow up.  But life is happening right here, right now.  And it can slip right through our fingers if we don’t stop to smell the roses.  Life is for living, loving, laughing, for being present to the juicy, delicious moments, feelings, experiences, and connections that surround us and knock on the door, just waiting to be let in.

Are you enjoying yourself?  Really soaking in the beauty around you?  Feeling your body?  Having amazing and meaningful connections with the people in your life?  That’s what it’s all about, really.  And it’s a gift that each of us can give ourselves, whenever and wherever we are.

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Feb 012017

What’s the sexiest thing you can imagine?

Let me give you a hint.  Being sexy has nothing to do with your body.  Sure, it’s nice to see, or to have, flawless skin, perfect teeth, chiselled abs, or wonderful breasts.  But none of these things really make a person sexy.  You can have these attributes, or see them in another, and something can still be missing.

Real sexiness comes from another place.  Any guesses?

Here it is: listening is sexy.  Really seeing someone, really being seen.  Putting all those little thoughts or insecurities we have on the back burner and tuning in to the person in front of us.  Giving your whole and complete attention to your partner makes you attractive.

We all crave it.  We want to connect, honestly and completely, with another human being.  Without all the games, without the worries, just sharing a moment together.  We want to be seen and appreciated for who we are.  This is one of the most basic and fundamental qualities of human nature.  And it’s the one that most often goes overlooked.

It’s hard to really listen.  We wonder if we should say this or that, if the other person sees us the way we want to be seen.  We wonder if we’re good enough, if our little imperfections – or big ones – will turn the other person off.  But all of these things get in the way.  No one’s perfect, and we’re all perfect exactly as we are.

It takes work, too, because we’re so used to wanting things to work out a certain way.  We’re used to wanting things from people, for them to see us this way, or have this sort of connection with us.  The most beautiful thing about this is that once you let go, the connections that enter your life become more right, more fulfilling in a subtle and indescribable way.

Try it out.  Next time you’re with your sweetheart, let go of all the things you worry about, and just listen to what they have to say.  Don’t just listen to their words.  Breathe, be in your body, and listen with every part of your being.  Open up your heart as well as your ears. Listen to the feelings that arise as they speak.  Listen to your body’s responses.  Open up to the person you’re sharing the moment with, and see where it goes.

If you can really do this, dating becomes much easier and a lot more fun.  And long-term relationships can be completely transformed.  No more waiting for the kiss, or wondering what you should say.  No more arguments about silly inconsequential things to cover your real feelings.  Just being there in the moment, listening, and allowing yourself to respond naturally.  No need to hold on to anything you might hope for, or hold off for anything you might be afraid of.  Just letting the moment unfold as it wants to, and following the energy.

One of the first things that you’ll notice is that people will be drawn to you.  As you become better at listening, people will want to share with you.  This is huge in intimate connections, but it doesn’t stop there.  When people feel that you see them, that they really hear what you have to say, they want to spend time with you.  They want to share all of those things they’ve kept inside.  Because you’re creating a space that they can just be themselves, that they will be seen and accepted for whoever they are.

This is a bit of magic, one of the easiest things we can do, and one of the hardest.  The single biggest key to being sexy.  Try it out, and let me know what you think.

In love and light,


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Dec 042016

merry-christmas-from-blissrisingMerry Christmas season, everyone!  Once more, it’s time for blessings and cheer and to reflect upon the year.  And it’s been a whirlwind.

I love the holiday season, but I have to remember to pull back and pamper myself a little bit along the way.  For all the cheer and joy that comes around, we have the stress of family dynamics, the rush for Xmas presents, and the inevitable chaos that pops up on cue each holiday season.  I invite you all to take the time you need to reboot and recover some of the energy spent throughout the last twelve months.

This year has been epic, both for Blissrising and on a personal level.  It’s flown by, a journey from one obstacle to the next.  For those that resonate with this, take heart.  There’s always a storm before the calm.  Crisis and opportunity, challenge and growth.  The energy is high, the pace is fast, and we’re gathering more momentum as we move along.  The best thing to do is take one step at a time and remember to breathe, to let the flow of life carry us along as it unfolds.

One of the beautiful new developments for Blissrising is the Hen’s Night.  These nights have been juicy and exciting, perfect gifts for the bride-to-be.  I host a Lingam Massage Hen’s Night where the lucky bride to be and her friends get to experience and learn the techniques needed to give a sensual and erotic experience that your men will never forget.  I teach an authentic tantric skill that will keep your man in the palm of your hand from day one, and once they go tantric, they don’t go back.

Despite the challenges along the way, this year has been exciting, expansive, and downright amazing.  I have received a host of wonderful clients, and have had the privilege to brighten their lives, deepen their connection to sensuality, and give the gift of touch, sensuality and tantra to men, women, and couples from all walks of life.  This is my passion and my joy, my way of bringing more life, light, joy, and pleasure into the world.

I normally don’t get into this, but I even have a few resolutions for the New Year.  My goals – to begin sharing with a broader audience through a YouTube channel and to take a few more mini-vacations and spend more time with loved ones.  I want to open up a bit more to the flow of life and to do one thing each day to brighten the lives of those around me.

So, with the end of one year and the dawn of the new on the horizon, what are your reflections?  What challenges have you met, and what gifts have these challenges offered?  What is there to be grateful for in your world, and what would you like to do to give back to yourself.  And finally, what experiences would you like to invite into your world during the year ahead?

In love and light, and with holiday blessings for all.

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Nov 012016

edging-and-the-tantric-orgasmI’m not a big fan of studies and statistics, but here’s one that caught my attention: it takes, on average and under most circumstances, 5.4 minutes for a man to reach orgasm once he has entered a woman.

Maybe that’s extended by a bit of foreplay and maybe you or your lover have the capacity to stretch things out a bit longer than that, but let’s be real.  That’s a bit anticlimactic.  (If you’ll pardon the pun.)

The good news is that this doesn’t have to be the case.  There’s a simple tip that, with a bit of practice, can allow the lovemaking experience to last hours.  By learning a bit about our bodies and the art of lovemaking, sex can become more fulfilling, more pleasurable, and infinitely more satisfying.  It’s all about edging.

All too often, our intimate play becomes a headlong rush to orgasm.  The excitement hits, the clothes come off, and you’re into it, hot and heavy.  And then—bam.  It’s done.  In many cases leaving one or both of you unsatisfied.

But what would happen if you slowed down?  If you let the orgasmic energy build up, bringing it almost to the point where release becomes inevitable… and then stop, hanging in the moment and feeling the energy flow between you?  Or allow the sexual energy to build, letting it get really intense, and then slowing down to languor in a soft and sensual rhythm?

Edging is the practice of orgasm control, of building up the orgasm, raising the sensations almost to the peak, and then relaxing away from it.  The energy builds up, and then ebbs off—a little bit.  Slowly, the sexual energy builds to levels you can’t even imagine if you haven’t tried it.  When the orgasm arrives, it’s explosive.  I’m talking body-shaking, toe-curling, forget where you are in the massive rush of pleasure explosive.

Edging can help a man to last much longer in the bedroom, help him to slow down and tune in to the subtle signals of his body, to enjoy a succulent lovemaking experience instead of turning the intimate play into a (brief) athletic performance.  Men that practice edging find that they can last much longer, have a stronger sex drive, have more control over when they choose to orgasm, and even experience multiple orgasms.

But this isn’t just for men.  Women can experience the same deepening of sensual experience and unbelievable heightening of pleasure in exactly the same way.  It can deepen the state of arousal, bring in a sense of euphoria, and put you in a state of altered consciousness.  Edging is a key element in the practice of tantra, in exploring the orgasmic potential of the entire body and deepening our awareness of sensual pleasure in all aspects of life.

Tantra is an exploration of the sexual energy, learning how to build it, feel it, and channel it through the body.  The beautiful thing about the practice of edging is that it leads you straight into this deeper connection with the sexual energies.  In building the orgasmic energy, you allow it to spread throughout the body rather than just being confined to the sexual organs.  The practice of tantra deepens this experience by connecting with the breath, slowing the breathing down and matching it with your partner.  Breathing as one, moving as one, and feeling as one.  Allowing the energy to rise and fall together, rather than pushing the experience to orgasm.  This takes a bit of practice, but it’s not about mastery.  It’s about making every single sensual experience you share with your lover exquisite and unforgettable.

Whether you’re stuck in a sexual rut or having the most unbelievable sex of your life, edging can help to take your lovemaking to new levels.  But don’t take my word for it.  Try it out yourself.   Next time you’re in that intimate space with your lover, tune in.  Slow down and let the feeling fill your awareness.  Try breathing together, and taking the time to really feel the connection.  Bring it up to the edge, and then back down.  Breathe the energy up through the body and through the heart.  And then allow it to build again, letting the sharing deepen and become more exquisite with each moment.

Blessings and beautiful sexplorations!

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Oct 012016

the-importance-of-personal-timeWe’ve all been there.  In the early stages of relationship, we just can’t get enough of one another.  Long conversations late into the night, early mornings together.  It’s a beautiful, magical time.  And then, somewhere along the way, a bit of tension starts to enter the picture.  We might start to get a bit snappy, a bit irritable at things that never even caught our attention before.  Little disputes can pop up, things that, if we had enough space and clarity, would never be enough to cause conflict.  Little by little, it becomes harder to stay in that space of euphoric connection that seemed inexhaustible in the beginning.

What happened?  Has the magic slipped away?  Limited shelf life for the golden moments?

Not really.  The bare truth is that we all need personal time to get centered and clear.  To rest the mind, come back to balance, and be in the space where we can bring the best of ourselves into any interaction.  It’s easy to forget this when we’re in that space of excitement about a new connection, but it’s a basic human need.  And knowing that can make the difference between a lasting, fulfilling relationship and one that becomes stale and confining despite our best efforts and sincerest desires to the contrary.

When we spend time with others, we tune in to them energetically.  Our fields become linked and we synch our vibrations.  We create a space between us that is different from the one we create for ourselves.  And this is a beautiful thing.  It’s connection, pure and simple.  This connection is what makes life exciting, juicy, delicious, and really worth living.  But the fact remains that it’s a different space than we have learned to navigate on our own.

By making it a point, even in those really beautiful and exciting early moments of a new connection, to take a bit of time for ourselves, we give ourselves a chance to occupy our own energy field.  Even a walk alone or a ten-minute space of personal time can let us tune in to the subtleties of our field.  Our focus comes back to center and we start to feel all those little things that might need attention in the moment.  Demands of the body, little emotional wobbles or thoughts that have come up, but haven’t had the chance to fully surface.  This time lets us take stock and listen to where we are and what’s happening for us in the moment.  To de-stress and sort out any of the loose ends that have accumulated along the way.

Personal time is essential for a healthy and lasting relationship, but it doesn’t end there.  The demands of life often keep us running.  From work to home, to the things that we have to sort out in order to keep things running, to the evenings out for fun.  One thing can lead to another, and over time, we get exhausted without even realising why.  With so many things claiming our urgent attention, a little time alone can seem unimportant.  But that lets all sort of things get lost in the mix.

Truth be told, having a bit of peaceful time alone each day is as important as exercising.  As having a healthy diet or good sleeping habits.  We can survive without it.  And even do really well—for a little while.  But before too long, the lack starts to catch up with us and we get a bit off.  We start to let things slip, or become distracted, irritable, stressed, or just generally less able to bring the best part of ourselves forward.  In any aspect of life.

So take a chance to stop and smell the roses.  Take a walk, have a few minutes of quiet contemplation, or just lay down in your own space for a moment.  See what happens when you make it a point to have a daily check in time.  How does your quality of connection improve?  What points of gratitude or clarity drop in when you create space for them?  It’s amazing how much a few moments alone can improve every connection in our lives.

Blessings and Light.

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