We’ve all heard this song (well, you have if you’re old enough, like me!). The chorus goes:
“I want a man with a slow hand,
I want a lover with an easy touch,
I want somebody who will spend some time,
Not come and go in a heated rush,
I want somebody who will understand,
When it comes to love I want a slow hand”.
This song was by the Pointer Sisters, and they got it spot on!
Some tips when you’re practicing the art of touching:
– Touch with the whole hand, not just the fingers or palm. Place your entire hand on the body – it lets the receiver know you’re present and helps them to feel confident in your abilities.
– When you touch the body slowly and with awareness, you are more likely to be present and in tune with your partner. When this happens you become one with the other. That enables you to both receive from this touch.
When receiving touch, each person generally likes it to be exactly how they feel it’s needed for their own particular body. We all have distinct and individual needs – so when you’re giving touch, you need to be responsive to their requests. How do we do that? Simply by asking the person what they need in the moment. Listen to what they’re telling you, then act on their feedback.
Remember, go slow, have an easy touch and don’t be in a heated rush! Understand the person you are touching and you will always have a wonderful session.
Now, go touch someone!